Do the souls of deceased relatives meet after death in the next world in heaven. Do the dead see us after death: the connection between the soul and a living person How to ask for help from deceased relatives

Let's say a person lived a righteous life, the Lord God took him to heaven, and his relatives were sinners and all went to hell. Will this soul really rejoice in paradise, knowing that relatives are tormented by the demon's fierce torture? And will our Lord allow it? For example, I love my parents madly, I can’t imagine life without them, even here, even there. And in general, then, will it be heaven there in heaven, if you are terribly tormented by the thought that your relatives are there, in hell?

Priest Athanasius Gumerov answers:

First of all, the solution of this theological issue must be separated from personal spiritual and moral experiences, because none of the people can consider anyone dead. The fate of everyone, even those who have lived sinfully, is a mystery to us. Until the Last Judgment, it was not finally determined for anyone. There are many examples in history when, through the prayers of the Church and loved ones, a person got rid of eternal condemnation. The Holy Martyr Ouar, appearing to Cleopatra, who had special care for his holy remains, told her that he begged God to forgive the sins of her relatives. St. Mark of Ephesus writes: “And there is nothing surprising if we pray for them, when, behold, some (saints) who personally prayed for the wicked were heard; so for example the blessed Thekla, by her prayers, transferred Falconilla from the place where the wicked were held; and the great Gregory the Dialogist, as the story goes, of King Trajan. For the Church of God, by no means, despairs of such, and to all those who have died in the faith, even if they were the most sinful, she begs God for relief, both in general and private prayers for them ”(Second Word about the purifying fire). The emperor Trajan (98 - 117) mentioned in the quotation was an outstanding ruler in terms of his military-strategic and administrative talents, but he was in captivity of pagan delusions. The third persecution of Christians is associated with his name.

Is a theological solution to the question posed in your letter possible? Yes, this question is resolved on the paths of faith. Many holy fathers of the early period of the Church came to Christianity as adults. Their parents and other immediate family members were not members of the Church. It would seem that they, sensitive to the real problems of life and the salvation of people close to them, should have deeply experienced this. But their creations say a lot about the endless joy of union with God. This can be easily explained: they did not put questions abstractly, but trusted God in everything. They believed in the boundless mercy of God and perceived as immutable truths the words of the Holy Scriptures, which speak of eternal bliss in the Kingdom of Heaven: “and eternal joy shall be upon their head; they will find joy and gladness, and sorrow and sighing will be removed” (Isaiah 35:10). And we must follow them to acquire the fullness of faith and have no doubt that the all-good, all-wise and all-powerful Lord will arrange exactly as He revealed to us in His Word.

All-honorable paradise, the most beautiful kindness, God-created village, Endless fun and pleasure,

Glory to the righteous, the beauty of the prophets and the saints dwelling, With the noise of your leaves, the Sovereign of all moths,

Open the gates to me, if you shut me up with a crime.

Lenten triod, cheese week, stichera on the Lord cried.

About paradise

- Father Alexander, please tell us about the conclusions you came to while studying the writings of the holy fathers about paradise.

My own task is very modest in view of the scope of my possibilities. I think that, first of all, one should thoroughly study the teaching of the holy fathers about the cosmos and the creation of the world and systematize it. Here you can find material for writing ten dissertations, but few do it. Meanwhile, everyone who writes about the creation of the world and man is very fond of referring to the holy fathers. That is, we often see how individual quotations are taken and adjusted to the author's reasoning. It is unlikely that such an approach can be considered scientific.

The main feature of the teaching of the Holy Fathers about the creation of the world was, in my opinion, attention to the action of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit of God has been in the created world from the very beginning of its creation, and Scripture (in the Hebrew version) likens this action to a bird hatching an egg - this is how St. Ephraim the Syrian translates the Hebrew text. The world was perceived as a created cosmos, initially and continuously filled with life. This original fullness of life makes the primordial cosmos different from what we see now.

Such a great interest in matter itself, as we see today, appeared much later, already in modern times, in Europe, which was losing faith in Christ. In addition, for the ancients, the aesthetic aspect was of great importance, which is either not mentioned or spoken briefly, or even in passing. In fact, the idea of beauty is one of the most important for understanding Six Days. But this is, so to speak, "not modern." It should be noted that theologians have now appeared who understand all this and strive to find a new solution to this issue. I would name N. Serebryakov and Priest Oleg Mumrikov.

- Why is the doctrine of paradise important for contemporary Orthodox theology?

Tree of Life

- What is the Tree of Life?

Today the source of life for us is the sun, but in the beginning of creation it was not so. Life was sustained by the grace of God. The mysterious Tree of Life was planted in Paradise, which was supposed to be the source of eternal life for man and for the whole world, but man could taste from it only with the special blessing of God. The Holy Fathers say that it was both a real and a symbolic tree. Liturgical poetry speaks of the Cross of Christ as the Tree of Life. And the Lord Jesus Christ Himself is the Tree of Life. As we read in the service of the forefeast of the Nativity of Christ, "the tree of the belly in the den prospered from the Virgin."

Light emanated from the Tree of Life, as St. Ephraim the Syrian writes about it, but a special light. Probably, this light was not limited to the space of paradise: it spread to the entire universe. The Bible says that even before the creation of the sun, there was primordial light. The sun, as St. Basil the Great writes, was "the chariot of the primordial light." This light can be tried to be associated with relic radiation. But there was also heavenly light. Just as the heavenly water made the whole earth drink, so the heavenly light illumined the entire universe. And after the fall, this light is also separated from our universe. The relic radiation has survived, but the heavenly light does not illuminate our planet.

Animals

The Bible says that animals were immediately produced by the earth and then brought by God to paradise. Some scientific directions adhere to the theory of evolution, that is, the doctrine of the origin of some species from others. How to be here?

Yes, animals and birds have been brought to heaven. And the fish, too, probably sailed along the paradise river. The whole creation was brought for a heavenly blessing. Animals in orderly rows, not afraid of each other, went to paradise, and Adam gave them names, says St. Efrem Sirin. They feared the man, but obeyed him. What implications did this have for the relationship between Adam and the animal world? According to the ancients, to give something a name meant to get possession of this object, since the name is associated with the essence of the thing.

For example, the philosopher Plato said that the essence of every creature is its idea: the horse has "horseness", the idea of a horse, which is the essence of a horse. Adam gave names to animals and through this he comprehended their essence, thus gaining power over them. Of course, the stay of animals in paradise ennobled them in some way. It was some very important stage for them. This shows that the theory of evolution has nothing to do with the biblical text, at least until the pronouncement of judgment. By the way, let me remind you that according to Shestodnev, all animals ate grass - there were no predators on earth, but what about us? And what does “natural-science” apologetics say about this?

- What is your opinion?

It seems to me that this herbal diet indicates the special nature of the primordial world, similar to paradise - there no one ate each other, there was no suffering and cruelty in the behavior of animals. They were created fearless.

But what about dinosaurs, lizards, mastodons, saber-toothed tigers and other creatures that paleontology speaks of? Children often ask about this. And for some reason no one answers them ...

As we have just said, it must be borne in mind that the heavenly and primordial existence was qualitatively different from the existing existence. One must either believe in that as in truth, or consider the story of paradise as a children's fairy tale. We must remember the doctrine of the essence of things. The essence is immutable, although everything external in a given being can change. The essence of the integral animal world is that all animals in general were created as helpers of people. Not only horses, dogs and elephants, but in general all living beings. The prehistoric creatures discovered by science - giants with incredible strength - were supposed to be helpers, servants of mankind.

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Hello, tomorrow will be 9 days for my beloved fiance, he died in the hospital, I want to know, after my death we will meet? And if we meet, will we also love each other, or will it completely disappear? I'm scared to think that he won't wait for me, our meeting.

Tatiana

Dear Tatyana, only what is lost on earth will completely disappear. Those who have passed into that world do not forget their relatives, only the reality there is different and it is impossible to expect them to think of us in the same way as we think of them here. The deceased appears before God, and, of course, all his attention is directed to Him. But love for loved ones does not disappear from this. Remember how in the exam: you take a ticket, you only think about the answer. But the love does not disappear! Pray for the deceased, do alms whenever possible, partake of the Holy Mysteries of Christ, live the church life. It will serve both you and him to increase. God bless you!

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Hello! After death, do family ties (marriage) continue, or later, in eternity, we will not know each other that we are spouses?

Anatoly

Hello Anatoly. We will meet with everyone, of course, and we will not forget anything. Not a single little thing. But family relations will no longer be. Here are the words of Christ: “In the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but remain as the angels of God in heaven” (Matthew 22:30).

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Father! Tell me please. My grandmother passed away before God. I love her very much, and after my time comes, I want to find her. Do you think she will have the same appearance as she was on earth? Will she be my grandmother? And there is one more question: if souls are born or are reborn into another earthly body, do they already take on a different appearance, and do they develop love and affection for other people and souls? How can I understand this? I so want to meet my granny later, hug her, see her and be with her forever! Excuse me for asking such a question, but please, if you know, tell me. Can I find her?

Marina

In heaven, everyone will be like angels, this is indicated in the Holy Scriptures (Matt. 22:30); there will be no kinship in that earthly representation, as we understand it, but the souls will partly remember each other. As for the idea of rebirth into souls into another body, please forget it, these are such fantastic ideas that it’s not even worth talking about them seriously. I'm not saying that all these Buddhist ideas have nothing to do with Christianity.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, I have always been interested in the question: it is said that after the end of the world, sinners will go to hell, and the righteous will go to heaven. And how to live FOREVER?

Ivan

I don’t see a contradiction here, Ivan, everything is absolutely correct: the righteous will forever be in Paradise, and the sinners will be in hell, this will be eternal life for both. Everything will be that way. True, I cannot help but make a reservation that in modern theology there are various doctrines about the finiteness of the torments of hell, that sinners, as if cleansed from sins through torment, will be pardoned, or about, for example, that sinners will choose hell for themselves voluntarily, but we cannot know this for certain, and therefore it is more reasonable for us to trust the text of Holy Scripture, without philosophizing craftily.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

As you know, in Paradise there will be no morning, no evening, no night, but always day. It seems to me that the morning is beautiful, the evening is sweet, and the night is good on earth. There will be no autumn and winter, but always spring and summer. I love autumn very much, like Pushkin, and also enjoy the beauty of nature in winter. I, like many people, love all seasons. Also, people will not need to drink, or food, or clothes. Why is that?

Olga

Olga, it will be so beautiful in Paradise that a person on earth cannot not only imagine, but even think. I think, looking at the beauty of heavenly abodes, you will understand that all the beauties of the Earth in comparison with them are just a pitiful shadow.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Tell me, will only baptized believing people be saved and go to the heavenly Jerusalem, but baptized unbelievers and pagans will not? Or they will be judged according to their conscience, and those who lived with dignity will also go to heaven, but which one? Maybe there are different levels of paradise? I meet different points of view of the priests.

Julia

Hello Julia! No one can give you a definitive answer to this question. Our posthumous fate is in the hands of God. The Lord is an all-merciful judge, but also an all-righteous one, and the judgment of God, in the end, is only a manifestation of the choice that a person himself has already made during his lifetime: whether he is with God or not. Consider what the Lord says: "No one will come to my Father except through Me." This means that without Christ, outside the Church, there can be no salvation. Indeed, without recognizing in Christ the Son of God, no one can be saved. But this does not mean that hundreds of thousands, maybe millions of people who knew nothing about Christ and Christianity will be severely punished. Think, for example, of the American Indians before the discovery of America by Columbus, or the Africans, or the Polynesians, or even those people who may have heard something about Christianity, but never had the experience of preaching about it in their lives - which could be called apostolic. But if a person saw the image of Christ in front of him, and suddenly for some reason did not accept and turned away, and, like the Jews during the life of Christ, said: “No, we have no king but Caesar, we don’t want to be with you, Christ God!” Whoever says this, it must be assumed that there is no way to salvation, but let us remember about the fate of others that the judgment is not ours, but the judgment of God and this judgment is just and merciful.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! Is it true that in the Kingdom of God (when we die), only those spouses who were married in the church during their lifetime will meet? Thank you.

Christina

Hello Christina! The Lord Himself in the Gospel says that after death people will not marry and get married, they will be like the angels of God in heaven. If in the life of the family there was not only a wedding, a good beginning, but also a path traveled such that people were connected here on earth by something that already belonged to eternity on earth, something that could be continued in eternity, then they will meet there. It will be a meeting in the fullness of joy that will never cease, and if they were united on earth only by common passions, whether bodily, or a passion for acquisition, or mutual repulsion from the rest of the world, or only joint care, even care for children, or simply social closeness, in order to survive in certain circumstances, but were internally alien to each other, then, of course, what can be continued here in eternity? The real outcome of life, and not something formal, makes this life here on earth the beginning of being outside the visible world.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello. I did not have time to marry my beloved person and get married. Is it possible, even though my beloved is no longer in this earthly life, to ask the Lord God to let us be together with him in eternal life? I know that this is my destiny, and praying to God helps me every day. Could this be not only the salvation of our souls, but a test of our love? Thanks in advance for your reply.

Anna

Hello Anna. There is no marriage in eternal life, "for in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like the angels of God in heaven." You can completely ignore my words, but believe me, I wish you well. Beware of mystical dreams and fantasies. Stick to the sound Orthodox teaching set forth by the Holy Fathers of the Eastern Church, and pay no attention to the inventions of the ignorant. In that life, everything is different. There is not a single local concept known to us that would be applicable to that reality. “The eye has not seen, the ear has not heard, and it has not entered the heart of man, which God has prepared for those who love Him.” Truth is simple and all-encompassing, and it reveals itself directly, and not in speculation and imagination, clothed in words. Christ gave the method of comprehending the Truth: "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God." This is already the sixth blessedness, but first one must learn humility, contrition of heart, meekness, constant thirst for God's truth and mercy. These are the Commandments of the Lord, you can fulfill them, because God accompanies those who follow them. And let us leave the fate of eternity to the judgment of God. We believe that God is good and does only good things. And I have prepared the best for you, based on the state of your soul and heart in which you are now. Each of us can change this state of mind and heart. God help you.

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Hello Father! Do relatives, close people and close friends see each other after death? Or will there be one?

Anatoly

Hello Anatoly. Sooner or later, we will all find out the answer to this question personally. The soul will not remain alone, but until the resurrection (restoration) the soul has no freedom. The soul is not a person, but only the soul of a person. Will meet someone. But what will happen after the Resurrection, it is even impossible to imagine. “The eye has not seen, the ear has not heard, and it has not entered the heart of man, which God has prepared for those who love Him.” (1 Corinthians 2.9)

Priest Alexander Beloslyudov

Father bless! My son's 7-month-old son died (baptized, inveterate). They were told that if you become pregnant with a new child before the 40th day, then the soul of our baby will move into it and will live in a new child. Is it so? Forgive me, sinner.

Catherine

What are you, Ekaterina, what nonsense! Who could say such a thing from believers?! You need to get these ideas out of your head, celebrate, as it should be, the days of memory for your son, and then think about the future.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello. Explain how Christianity relates to the reincarnation of the soul? One Christian woman told that in a past life she was in hell for her crimes, and now, when the LORD descends there, repentant souls cry out, and he sends them to earth again for correction. How to relate to this and what to answer to a person who believes that we live more than one life? It’s a sinful thing, I used to think so too, but lately I’ve been thinking differently, but I can’t even explain to myself, neither the first nor the second. Forgive me and pray for me, a sinner.

Svetlana

Svetlana, the transmigration of human souls from body to body is a fiction of the human mind, striving to the best of its ability to explain the incomprehensible aspects of being. Such a migration does not exist, and it is strange that a woman who calls herself a Christian can speak such nonsense! What can she say? Let him try to give evidence of his point of view from Scripture. They are not there!

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Where will a person go after death and will he meet his relatives there?

Zhenya

Zhenya, Scripture unequivocally speaks of the existence of Heaven and Hell, but where a person goes depends on the person himself. With regard to relatives, such a meeting is quite possible if these relatives are in the same monasteries as the person himself.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, fathers! Quite a lot of time has passed, already 2 years, and I still cannot come to terms with the loss of my dearest person on earth, my precious mother. There was not a day that I did not cry, all thoughts are only about her, nothing in life makes me happy. Do we have any consolation? Can we hope to meet our loved ones and consider our separation temporary? After all, not everything in life can go unnoticed. I do not know what to do.

Lena

Lena, death must be treated in a Christian way. There is not a single person on earth who would live forever. Every person is sentenced to death. "You will die," God said to Adam when he drove him out of paradise. Despondency, despair is a sin, stop angering God, stop crying. You harm not only yourself, but also your mother, you need to pray for the repose of her soul, and you torment her with your tears. Death is the birth into a new, different life. The soul of a person does not die, but lives forever, only where it will then be depends on our life. "From his deeds a man will be justified or condemned," he will go to heaven or hell. After death, we will definitely meet, but whether we will be together depends on us now, on how we will spend this life. Pray, repent, live like a Christian. Stop useless tears.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello! I read the book "Notes of the Living Deceased". Written by Elsa Barker. It is written about the afterlife on behalf of a dead person. And that this is all a true story. How to treat it?

Faith

Faith, this is fiction, so please treat it that way. And for the future - in order not to read something dubious, and then not to be tormented by questions - read better, as St. Ignatius Brianchaninov, holy authors.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! I would like to ask Hieromonk Victorin (Aseev) a question. Father Viktorin, it has been said here more than once that living relatives greatly mourn their departed relatives, it was said that they need to understand that they are better off there than here, and you said: “a different life, life in the Kingdom of Heaven is much better, than here on earth, and if a person visits there at least once, then he will not want to return back to this world full of evil, "if baptized small children die, then they go to heaven. Let's leave, okay, small baptized children, if they somehow go to heaven - this is a consolation for loved ones, probably, should be. But what to do if an adult loved one left, but you pray, but how do you know where he ended up? After all, as I understand it, on the 40th day everything was already decided where he should be - in heaven or in hell. And the fact that the deceased relative is better there than here, and he should seem to calm down and stop shedding tears, as it has been repeatedly said here ... After all, how is it better if he ended up in hell? After all, we do not know where exactly? And then yes, paradise is good, of course, but how good it can be, for example, for a mother without her child, in whom she did not look for souls, even if she ended up in paradise, but without her child. Father, I am confused in these matters, help me figure it out. Thank you.

Ludmila

Lyudmila, it was about babies. Baptized babies, if for some reason die, they always go to heaven. About an adult, when he dies, we cannot specifically say where he will go, to heaven or hell. We can say affirmatively that a person has gone to heaven only if we clearly see that he leads a holy way of life, or if a person is completely atheist and an obvious sinner and does not repent of his sins, then we can say that a person perishes for the Kingdom of Heaven, and then presumably because only God decides. We are guided by the commandments of God. After 40 days, a private judgment takes place - this is a preliminary place, and this can be changed by our prayers to God, and therefore we always pray for our departed. The final decision will be at the Last Judgment, when nothing can be corrected, the verdict will be final. As it is written in the Holy Scriptures, there a person will not ask about anything. If a mother got into the Kingdom of Heaven, then she will be able to beg for her child. A mother's prayer comes from the bottom of the sea. I think if they have such a strong love during life, then they will be together after death. God is love. God loves man and does everything for our salvation. Everything depends on ourselves, if we want to be saved together with our children and will do everything for this, then, of course, God will not leave us and have mercy.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello! Do you think you can trust a site that provides stories of people who have experienced clinical death and the like? And in general, how to relate to such people, to people who saw something in unconsciousness? People who saw something in a dream? People who have seen something in similar states? How to be? Thank you in advance.

Oleg

Oleg, you should not trust such sites, as well as similar "revelations" of people who have experienced clinical death in general: there are so many things mixed in them that it is not possible to make out where the truth is and where the lie is. Therefore, it is better to completely dismiss this muddy source of information.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, fathers. I apologize in advance for the question. I just don’t know how to ask more correctly and delicately so as not to offend the Lord and you. I don’t want it to look like I’m leaving the hospital or serving time, so I repeatedly apologize. Explain, please, if the soul of the deceased after the Judgment of God ends up in hell, then this is forever? Can relatives beg for forgiveness for him, praying daily in a home prayer for a lost soul? Can the Lord, already after 40 days, later, ever forgive a sinner and take him to Himself, to Paradise? Is such mercy possible? Is it written somewhere about this? Probably, I have a clouding of my mind, but I am ashamed to admit that bad thoughts are constantly in my head (I confessed this), I want to know, check, make sure. Here it is again... It's like I'm talking to a lawyer. Lord, don't let me go crazy! Once again, forgive me, a sinner. I would be very grateful for an answer.

On the 3rd day after death, the soul ascends to worship God, goes through ordeals, where it can be detained for sins. How to appear before God on this day, on the 9th, on the 40th, if there is no intercessor and prayer book on earth, and the Angel, because of the stinking sins, retreated?

Valery

Valery, the Lord is merciful, and is able to have mercy even if none of the relatives prays on earth. In general, you and I go into areas in which we cannot know anything for sure. We need to know only one thing: how to live without sins and not fall into hellish abysses.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Boundless and unsuccessful would be our grief for dying loved ones, if the Lord did not give us eternal life. Our life would be aimless if it ended in death. But man was created for immortality, and Christ, by His resurrection, opened the gates of the Kingdom of Heaven, eternal bliss for those who believed in Him and lived righteously. Our earthly life is a preparation for the future life, and this preparation ends with death. "It is appointed for men to die once, and then judgment" (Heb. 9:27). Then a person leaves all his earthly cares; his body disintegrates in order to rise again at the General Resurrection. But his soul continues to live, not ceasing its existence for a single moment. St. Ambrose of Milan teaches: “Since the soul continues to live after death, there remains goodness that is not lost with death, but increases. The soul is not held back by any obstacles set by death, but is more active, because it acts in its own sphere without any connection with body, which is rather a burden than a benefit to her" (St. Ambrose of Milan, "Death as a blessing"). Anyone who wants to show his love for the dead and give them real help can best do this by praying for them, and especially by commemorating the Liturgy (only the baptized), when the particles taken for the living and the dead are immersed in the Blood of the Lord with the words: "Wash Lord, the sins of those who were commemorated here by Your precious blood, by the prayers of Your saints. They always need this, especially in those forty days when the soul of the deceased follows the path to the eternal villages. The body then does not feel anything: it does not see the gathered loved ones, does not smell the smell of flowers, does not hear funeral speeches. But the soul feels the prayers offered for it, is grateful to those who offer them, and is spiritually close to them. You have the wrong idea about the afterlife. They don't get married there, they don't get married - there is endless life in Christ Jesus, Our Lord. Whether you marry or not is your personal decision. The Apostle Paul says "it's better for you to remain celibate like me, but not everyone can accommodate it," so that you do not sin, do not inflame the flesh, it is better to marry (get married). A married man cares about how to please his wife, while an unmarried man thinks about how to please God.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Incredible Facts

A week after Easter, each of us remembers our dead loved ones. This time is called Radonitsa.

We visit the graves of deceased relatives, remembering what they were like, what role they played in our destiny during their lifetime and continue to play after their death.

One of the most difficult stages of life is the moment when a loved one dies. We miss his physical presence, hugs and voice - in short, those physical attributes that we associate with our family, friends or close relatives.

It is difficult to accept the fact that a loved one leaves us forever and moves on to the next stage of existence. But life takes a new turn and offers you the opportunity to see the other side of death.

You have a chance to realize that your deceased relative was much more than just a bodily image: skin, muscles and bones. We are talking about the spiritual, and not the physical component of man.

After all, the body was only his earthly shell, an external disguise, in which for some time there was the indestructible essence of man.

The death of your loved ones, in addition to suffering and grief, brings you a new discovery and understanding, you are given the opportunity to strengthen your relationship connected with the soul of a person close to you.

This understanding will help you wake up and realize that your departed loved ones are much more than just a physical shell.

Here are 8 important things you need to understand about the death of your loved ones.

After the death of loved ones

Numerous clinical and scientific studies say that after death you will be reunited with your departed loved ones.

Many people who have experienced clinical death have come into contact with deceased loved ones. Some have also been able to experience this while sleeping using their normal or more ethereal senses.

Unfortunately, only a few manage to experience such an experience. What needs to be done to get in touch with deceased relatives? There is no clear answer.

Pray more to be able to feel the presence of your loved ones; meditate to become calm and peaceful, so you can feel their subtle presence; retire with nature, because their souls are everywhere where there is peace and quiet.

Analyze everything you know about the souls of the dead and about contact after death with dead people. Do you think this is possible? Or you yourself have experienced something similar once or even several times.

If you have any doubts, remember that "spiritual" or non-physical contact is always weightless, short-lived and barely perceptible, unlike physical contact, which is more familiar and ordinary for us.

Now take a few deep breaths. If you get the chance, be sure to watch the movie Talking to Heaven. One of the scenes of this wonderful film based on the book by James Van Pragh depicts the episode of the dying old man and his reunion with his loved ones and pets. This exciting and very touching scene cannot but touch the hearts.

Death in different cultures

2. Celebration, because they have completed their earthly life!

Many cultures celebrate the death of a relative as a real holiday, because their loved one has completed earthly life and is moving to a better world.

They also understand that sooner or later there will be a long-awaited meeting with him, because they accept the fact that spiritual life, unlike physical life, is endless.

Such an understanding makes one feel sadness and pain associated with the death of a loved one, but at the same time feel the joy that they ended their earthly existence and went to heaven.

Put more simply, it's like a bittersweet feeling, like when a young person graduates from high school: he's happy to have finished school, but sad because he's leaving his second home.

Unfortunately, the reaction of many people to the departure of a loved one is quite predictable: severe pain, suffering and sadness. Few would think of experiencing joy, because he lost a loved one.

Agree, rejoicing at the death of a loved one is somehow unnatural and illogical. Recall times when you felt conflicting emotions and how you dealt with it.

One thing is absolutely certain: in matters of perception of death, a person is at a rather low level of development, he has not yet learned to think from a spiritual point of view and perceives death as a physiological process, and not a spiritual one.

For a deeper understanding, one more example can be given. Imagine how badly your feet would hurt after walking all day in uncomfortable boots. Now think about how wonderful it would be to kick off your hated shoes at the end of the day and put your feet in a warm water bath. Something similar happens with the body after death, especially when a person is old, sick or infirm.

Remember that now your deceased loved one is in a better world. Of course, provided that it is not Hitler or another vile villain who did a lot of bad things during earthly life.

Think of your best days, your happiest, healthiest and most energetic moments, and then multiply them by a million. Approximately such sensations are experienced in heaven by the soul of a departed person, if during earthly life he did not commit evil.

Agree, in a similar vein, death does not seem so terrible anymore. The soul feels so good that it merges with this light and that pure energy that radiates from another world.

Perhaps it sounds too good to be true. But sometimes during earthly life we are used to struggle and experience a lot of disappointments, which, as a rule, are waiting for new bad news.

That is why it is so important to accept that the souls of our deceased relatives in the afterlife live much better and calmer than on earth. They enjoy the light and the freedom that heaven has given them.

Here is another sad story, which, nevertheless, has a very deep meaning. A mother who lost her only son decided to heal her grief by helping other people.

Every week she took out a bowl of soup to a homeless person, and each time, helping the homeless person, silently repeated the name of her dead son and imagined a dear face. She focused her thoughts on the happy times they had spent together.

Instead of indulging in sorrow and pain, she decided to help those in need and remember joyful moments, thereby alleviating the pain of loss.

How to accept the death of a loved one

4. You can focus on three important elements: anticipation, joy, and gratitude.

When losing a loved one, try to focus on those emotions. They will help you take your mind off grief and pain and indulge in more kind feelings.

You can look forward to the moment when you meet your loved one again who has left this world. You can also experience the joy of knowing that the soul of a loved one is in a better world.

Imagine that she is in beautiful green pastures and is free from the trials and tribulations that she endured during earthly life.

And you should also be grateful for all the wonderful times you spent together and all the wonderful memories you have. So when your sadness gets too strong, try to focus on these three feelings.

Focusing on these positive feelings eases your grief and suffering and helps you remember that life and love are eternal.

Think about a deep loss or disappointment in your life and how you could apply this triple formula to your life.

Here's another story of a heartbroken mother: Rachel lost her son less than a year ago.

"The past eleven months have been a period of the greatest pain, sorrow and suffering, but also the greatest growth I have ever experienced." An amazing statement, isn't it?

However, that's exactly what happened in Rachel's life. After the death of her beloved son, she began to help other children who have no parents. Moreover, according to her, her own son helps her in good deeds, being in another dimension.

5. Your deceased loved ones sometimes try to tell you something.

Each of us has heard that sometimes it happens that the soul of our deceased loved one tries to convey some important message to us living on earth.

How to hear it and correctly interpret it?

If you want to get a message from your loved ones, of course you can visit a psychic. There are people who are mediators between the world of the living and the world of the dead.

However, many people take advantage of the fact that inconsolable relatives want to communicate with deceased loved ones. Scammers pretend to be magicians, sorcerers and psychics and simply make a lot of money on it, without helping in any way, but on the contrary, exacerbating the situation.

You can also save time, money and nerves by not going to psychics. Indeed, in fact, all the messages that the souls of the deceased relatives send us are approximately the same: they just want you to be happy; know that they are alive and well; don't worry about them; enjoy life on earth; and be sure that sooner or later you will meet them again.

First of all, release yourself of any guilt associated with the person who left. Perhaps at one time you didn’t do too well with him, did something bad to him, or, on the contrary, didn’t do something to help him, didn’t say a word of love.

Don't blame yourself for this, let go of the guilt.

Each soul leaves earthly life in its own time and you should not blame yourself for anything. So you make it worse for yourself and for your loved one, who has already left this world.

If you feel any guilt, get rid of this feeling that simply devours you and does not bring any benefit to others or your own soul.

Such low energy emotions can interfere with the emergence of more powerful and positive energy flows, thereby poisoning your life.

In addition, there are many films on similar topics. An example of such a film can be a wonderful picture "Ghost" with Demi Moore in the title role.

Remember how the heroine of the film communicated with the spirit of her deceased lover, and how throughout the film he tried to reveal to her the secret of his death.

Try to free yourself from various experiences related to life and death. Believe me, just looking at death as the next stage in the endless saga of life, you can feel relief and live on.

We all wondered, "Why do we have to die? Why don't people live forever?" The answer is simple: in fact, we do not die, but simply change the external form of our existence.

This change looks like a terrible end to existence for those people who look at life only as an earthly existence.

Also imagine how boring and suffocating the constant monotony would be. Here's a simple example: think of a favorite movie and ask yourself, "Do I want to watch it every day for all eternity?" The answer is obvious: of course not. So it is with life.

Souls love variety, space, and adventure, not stagnation and routine. Life means eternal change. This is a great setup when you release your fears and understand that there is a reason for everything.

Be honest, have you ever wanted to stop time? It's a natural thought, especially when things finally seem to be going well. You have a desire to stop this time.

But a little reflection on this will help you understand how unfortunate this desire is. If you need more proof, just watch the movie "Groundhog Day" when certain events repeat themselves over and over again.

And here is another sad but instructive story: Marla's three children died. It would seem that the woman should have fallen into a deep depression, but instead she asked herself the following question: "How can I help others survive the death of their own child?"

Today, this woman leads the group "Help for parents who have lost children." And this is a great demonstration of how we can always choose the high right path, even after experiencing a terrible misfortune - the loss of a loved one.

7. Use and share the gifts that the souls of deceased loved ones send you

Some cultures believe that when a loved one dies, they send you a spiritual gift. Many people have noticed a greater change in their personality or energy after the death of someone close to them.

It is impossible to know someone well without receiving gifts from them. We are energetic beings living in an energetic Universe. All of our interactions result in a literal exchange of physical molecules and energy patterns.

Imagine that the souls of deceased loved ones can transmit their love, ideas, inspiration to those who remained on Earth and whom they love very much.

Accept these gifts, use them to ease your grief and improve yourself and the world around you.

This point is especially important for understanding some things related to the death of a loved one. Look back, did the death of a loved one somehow affect you, from the point of view that you became somehow more perfect or changed something in yourself for the better?

8. Ability to rely on others

If not always, then at least from time to time we need to lean on each other and feel the support of others.

Despite the fact that after the loss of a loved one, people often experience severe pain and grief, some of them "do not want to bother others with their problems and tears."

You may be surprised, but many, on the contrary, will be glad and even happy to help someone who needs it. In addition, when you get back on your feet and feel the taste of life, you can return the same coin and help someone else.

This simple truth can ease the pain of loss and also allow you to show your best qualities, such as kindness and mercy towards others.

There are many organizations and charities who really need your help.

Important advice: if a loved one has died, it is very important to share this grief with someone, not to withdraw into yourself. With whom is it better to share the bitterness of loss? Of course, first of all, we are talking about family and friends. Who else but your family members will help you cope with grief? It can also be close friends, acquaintances. For some, working and communicating with colleagues helps in this situation.

Well, if you don’t have a loved one nearby with whom you can share your grief, you can turn to a psychologist. This is exactly the case when you can and should turn to him for help.

I would like to hope that having learned these 8 points, a person who has lost a loved one will feel calmer.

It is very difficult for us to accept the death of loved ones, however, we can alleviate the pain of loss by changing our attitude towards death. You should not perceive it only as a physical process, but try to treat it as a spiritual transition of our soul to eternal life.

Be careful and patient with yourself when you mourn and mourn for another relative who has gone into the world. Try to keep a broader perspective of understanding and perception of life and death, as described above. It will ease your grief and make life brighter and cleaner.

With the name of Allah the Merciful, the Merciful

Praise be to Allah - the Lord of the worlds, peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, members of his family and all his companions!

Family ties will also be in Paradise, and there are direct indications of this in the Koran:
Speaking about the faithful, Allah Almighty said:

أُوْلَئِكَ لَهُمْ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ، جَنَّاتُ عَدْنٍ يَدْخُلُونَهَا وَمَنْ صَلَحَ مِنْ آبَائِهِمْ وَأَزْوَاجِهِمْ وَذُرِّيَّاتِهِمْ وَالمَلاَئِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ

“The Last Abode is prepared for them - the gardens of Eden, into which they will enter together with their righteous fathers, spouses and descendants. The angels will enter them through any gate” (ar-Ra’d 13: 22-23).

Allah Almighty also said, speaking about the prayer with which the angels turn to Him for the believers:

رَبَّنَا وَأَدْخِلْهُمْ جَنَّاتِ عَدْنٍ الَّتِي وَعَدتَّهُم وَمَن صَلَحَ مِنْ آبَائِهِمْ وَأَزْوَاجِهِمْ وَذُرِّيَّاتِهِمْ إِنَّكَ أَنتَ الْعَزِيزُ الْحَكِيمُ

“Our Lord! Bring them into the gardens of Eden that You promised them, and also the righteous from among their fathers, spouses and descendants. Verily, You are the Mighty, the Wise” (Ghafir 40: 8).

Allah Almighty also said:

ادْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ أَنتُمْ وَأَزْوَاجُكُمْ تُحْبَرُونَ

"Enter Paradise joyfully with your wives"(az-Zuhruf 43:70).

Allah Almighty also said:

وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَاتَّبَعَتْهُمْ ذُرِّيَّتُهُم بِإِيمَانٍ أَلْحَقْنَا بِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ وَمَا أَلَتْنَاهُم مِّنْ عَمَلِهِم مِّن شَيْءٍ كُلُّ امْرِئٍ بِمَا كَسَبَ رَهِينٌ

“We will reunite the believers with their descendants who followed them in the faith, and we will not diminish their deeds in the least” (at-Tur 52: 21).

Thus, family ties will also be in Paradise, BUT, of course, under the certain condition that they all died as Muslims!

As for the last verse and its understanding, whether relatives will be together, even if their degrees in Paradise were different, as the external meaning of the verse indicates, the scholars differed on this issue. Someone thought that if Allah had this mercy, then He could reunite all family members with parents whose degree in Paradise was higher than their degree. And someone believed that this verse was about children who died at an early age, before reaching adulthood.

Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who said: “Indeed, Allah will raise the degree of the believer’s descendants to his degree in Paradise, even if they did less good deeds than he, so that he finds in them the delight of the eye.” . Then he recited the verse: “We will reunite the believers with their descendants who followed them in the faith, and we will not diminish their deeds in the least” (at-Tur 52: 21). al-Bazzar 3/70, at-Tahawi in Sharh Mushkil al-asar 2/14, al-Jurdjani in al-Amali 141. Authentic hadith. See “as-Silsila as-sahiha” 2490.

However, scholars disagreed whether these words belong to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), or whether these are the words of Ibn ‘Abbas himself. But Sheikh al-Albani said: “It can be said that this is a message from a companion, however, in terms of position, it is similar to what is erected to the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), since they do not say this, relying on their own opinion”. See as-Sahiha 5/647.

Hafiz Ibn Kathir said: “The Almighty says: "Gardens of Eden, which they will enter with their righteous fathers, spouses and descendants". Ie: Allah will reunite between them and those whom they loved from among the fathers, wives and children in the gardens of Paradise, who were fit for entry into Paradise from among the believers, so that they find the delight of the eyes in them. Moreover, a person can be elevated from a low degree of Paradise to a high one, while not reducing the degree of the one who occupies a high one, because of the mercy from Allah and the good, as the Almighty said:“We will reunite the believers with their descendants who followed them in the faith, and we will not diminish their deeds in the least.” See Tafsir Ibn Kathir 8/136.

Insha-Allah, Allah will make sure that the inhabitants of Paradise will not be sad, or even make it so that the inhabitants of Paradise will forget their relatives from among the inhabitants of Hell. After all, there will be no sorrow in Paradise!

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “On the Day of Resurrection, Ibrahim will meet his father Azar, whose face will be covered with dust and darken (from grief), and will say to him: “Didn’t I tell you not to contradict me ?!” His father will say, “Today I will obey you!” Then Ibrahim will exclaim: “O my Lord! Verily, You have promised me not to dishonor me on the Day when (Your servants) will be resurrected, but can there be anything more shameful than the removal of my father?!” Then Allah Almighty will say:“Verily, I have made Paradise forbidden for the disbelievers!” And then it will be said to him: “O Ibrahim, what is this under your feet?” And when he looks, he will see a hyena spattered with blood, which will be grabbed by the legs and thrown into the Fire. . al-Bukhari 3350.

In another version of the hadith, it is said that after that, Allah Almighty will ask him: "O my servant, is this your father?" To which he will reply: "No, I swear by Your majesty" . al-Hakim 4/589. The hadith is authentic. See “Sahih at-targhib” 3631.

And in the version of al-Bazzar it is reported that he will then say: "I do not know you" . Hafiz al-Haysami called all the transmitters trustworthy. See Majma'u-zzawaid 1/118.

I ask Allah Almighty to rest us and our relatives in Islam and Sunnah, and reunite us with them in Paradise!

And finally, praise be to Allah - the Lord of the worlds!