“I want a family” - this desire sooner or later arises in the minds of almost all people. But is it so good family life Or is it better to be single? If you still create a family, then how to prepare for this serious step? The publication will answer these questions.

Single life or family life?

For some, a bachelor's life is real bliss and freedom, for others it is only longing and fetters. Some people dream of finding peace and family comfort as soon as possible, while someone, on the contrary, strives not to tie themselves in marriage for a longer time. In most cases, the bachelor life attracts men, both young and mature. They can sincerely enjoy a free life until they feel the need to find a family.

Women, by their nature, tend to create comfort and home. They perceive the absence of a family in a negative way, especially if it has been absent for a long time. Therefore, it is quite normal if thoughts like “Will I get married” arise in a girl’s head. A rare woman will be sincerely glad of a bachelor life. Usually these include those who already have experience of marriage, and not the most successful. Therefore, they do not want to live together with the opposite sex or try to postpone this moment as long as possible.

That is, everyone chooses for himself how to live: free or married. Single life has its pros and cons. About them further and will be discussed.

Advantages of single life

The basis of a bachelor's life is freedom in all its forms and manifestations. Non-family people very fiercely protect her from encroachments of the opposite sex. The ability to do whatever you want in a single life is a major positive. The remaining pluses only follow from the concept of freedom.

• This is a lot of free time, which you can dispose of only at your discretion.
• The ability to manage finances the way you want.
• Free choice of friends, which does not depend on the sympathies of the chosen one.
• Gastronomic preferences are not controlled by anyone.
• A varied sex life due to the constant change of sexual partners.
• The dwelling can be furnished as you like, relying only on your vision of the interior.
• You choose how and when to clean.
• No need to adapt to someone, try to negotiate and seek compromises.
• A bachelor has low responsibility: you feed, provide for and answer only for your loved one.
• More opportunities to build a successful career that will bring high prosperity.
• Less stress. No matter how good the relationship is, family life is a constant test of nerves for strength. Nobody bothers Bobyl to rest, sleep, and does not drip on the brain.

The positives are quite impressive. It is understandable why bachelors say: "I don't want a family." But there is a significant nuance here. All the charms of a carefree life can be fully experienced only from the age of 25-28. As a rule, by this age, both women and men live separately from their parents, become financially independent and sufficiently prepared to independently resolve domestic issues.

Disadvantages of single life

Usually, awareness of the negative aspects of a single life comes at those moments when a person is oversaturated with personal freedom. Then he begins to understand: "I want a family and children." Moreover, single life has its downsides.

• Lack of psychological and physical support. A bachelor can rely in everything only on his own strength. This negative moment is especially acute when help is required for health reasons.
• Independent housekeeping. This is the performance of traditionally female and male duties. Cleaning the apartment, cooking, moving heavy and bulky items, repairing plumbing, electrics, and so on.
• Inconsistent sexual relations. Free people regularly have to look for a new partner, which can have a bad effect on libido. If the connections are random and unprotected, then there is a high probability of health problems.
• Low social activity. Most bachelors aspire to nothing. The exception is self-care. It doesn't compare to how a married man behaves or married woman. They help their extended family, start a garden or a dacha, go with their children to various interesting places where they communicate with new people. It makes purposeful and very developing.

Of course, one cannot categorically state that family life is a panacea for everyone, and bachelor life is selfish and immoral. A person should listen only to his feelings and act in accordance with them. It is silly to start a family just for the reason that it is due to age or all the acquaintances have already married. The decision to end the bachelor life must be conscious and sincere. Only in this case will it be comfortable in marriage.

Why can't you start a family?

What problems can you face? It happens that a person comes to the conclusion: “I want to get married / get married”, but for some reason cannot achieve this goal. Why is this happening? This can be explained by the following facts.

The most important reason is to create an ideal image of a partner. Moreover, a person may not even realize that he is not true. Everyone wants to be paired with smart, beautiful, rich, caring and so on. This is an abstract person with a certain set of traits and qualities that simply may not exist in reality. You need to descend from heaven and not wait for a prince or princess.

The second most popular reason is the lack of motivation and true desire. Yes, a person can say: “I want a family”, but in reality it is not so. He is simply based on the norms of society and what he sees around a lot of married couples. Therefore, it would seem that he also wants to become like that, although in fact there is no real desire. This situation often happens to women. Seeing how acquaintances create families, they begin to complain: “Will I get married someday?”

A bachelor can be hindered by his past. For example, there was already love in his life, but it ended in parting, although the feelings remained. Since then, other applicants are not recognized at all and are not considered for the role of a life partner.

Very often, some unfinished business or career interferes with starting a family. There is so much to do in life! Earn enough money, buy a car, an apartment, have time to travel. And this, of course, requires money and free time. Once these goals are achieved, it will be possible to start a family and children. So many people argue and risk not being in time.

Some people are prevented from creating a serious relationship by complexes, self-doubt, weakness of character and vulnerability. These subconscious qualities are programming for an unsuccessful life in which there is no family happiness. In accordance with this, a person builds his behavior.

Sooner or later you start to think about how to start a family and what you need to do to get there. This will be discussed further.

Ask yourself questions

First of all, you should ask yourself why so far it has not been possible to start a family. You have to be completely honest with yourself and answer the question honestly. For clarity, the reasons can be written out on a piece of paper. For example, it can be fears, complexes or problems in the search.

It is also worth considering why you want to start a family. That is, you need to understand what exactly you expect from a relationship in marriage. All options that come to mind can be written down on a piece of paper. Answers in the style of “because relatives are pressing” or “it’s time for age” are an indicator of unpreparedness for a serious relationship. It's just a desire to conform to public opinion. If the intentions are sincere, then you need to try to eliminate the reasons why you can’t start a family. What step will be next?

love yourself

Some say: “I want to get married / get married”, but at the same time they do not like themselves. Who will love a man who does not love himself? If there are any complexes that interfere with starting a family, then you need to work with them. If there are problems in communicating with the opposite sex, then you need to attend psychological trainings. The figure can be adjusted with the help of sports and diets. Lack of repair or cooking skills will help correct the corresponding courses. That is, any problem can be solved.

Some are embarrassed by their appearance, although often this complex is far-fetched. But even if there are some problems with this, then it is worth taking a closer look at happy married couples. Not all of them have perfect looks. So that's not the point. A family is created with the person whose qualities correspond to their own expectations and values.

Revise the value system

Of course, one desire “I want a good family” will not be enough. It's just emotions. You need to be ready to get married. And this is the maturity of the individual. To create a family, you must have a certain system of values. If it is different, then it will have to be revised in order for the relationship to be successful. What to pay attention to before

• Know how to express your feelings. This can be done not only with words, but with touches and glances. It is also important to confirm your love in deeds, and not just talk about it. The partner must feel that he is loved and important for his chosen one.
• The ability to emotionally empathize with a partner. In marriage, it is important to be an empathic person. After all, who, if not a spouse, will provide support. It is necessary not only to listen about problems, but also to listen to them.
• Consider the other person's opinion. In general, spouses are equal in rights. Everyone has their own desires and responsibilities. This must be taken into account when planning family life. A woman is not required to be a housekeeper, and a man is not required to be a "purse". All roles are assigned by mutual agreement. Household issues should be discussed in advance and a decision should be made jointly.
• Be responsible. Starting a family is at least taking care of one more person. Therefore, you need to learn to be responsible not only for yourself, but also for him. You will also have to treat money differently. It will be necessary to plan the family budget, keep records of earnings and expenses, deny yourself something in order to have enough funds for more important things. It is very important that both spouses share responsibility for two, and not just someone pulling the strap.

Decide on the criteria for the chosen one

It is important to understand what kind of person you want to see next to you until the end of your days. To do this, you can make a list of preferred qualities. Appearance doesn't matter. It is necessary to indicate age, character traits, interests, skills and other features. Something without which it is impossible to build long-term relationships.

There is no need to hope that there will be a person who fully meets all the criteria. It is better to rank the list and, when choosing, rely only on the most significant qualities. For example, for someone it is very important that the partner loves children, and someone appreciates the similarity of hobbies. Everyone has their own preferences. Of course, the second half must also want to live in marriage. Otherwise, the statement “I want a family, get married (marry)” will simply be meaningless.

Search for a chosen one

You can’t dream of starting a family and not leaving the house anywhere. Spouse (s) will not fall from the ceiling. If there are only loners in the social circle, then you will have to make new acquaintances. You can visit restaurants, interest clubs, sports sections, theaters, city events and so on. But you don’t need to “go hunting” and each time hope that you will meet the same one. It is important to keep a sober mind and just enjoy life. For some, special dating sites will be the way out. They can significantly reduce the search time for the chosen one. But this method has its drawbacks. On the Internet, people often embellish their virtues and behave differently than in real life.

Don't rush things

When the search is completed, there is no need to rush and immediately stun the chosen one: “I want a family, let's go to the registry office as soon as possible!” This will only scare away, even if the person is not against marriage. Let the relationship develop gradually. Moreover, during this time you can get to know all the advantages and disadvantages of a potential spouse. You can think about a wedding only with full confidence that there is love, respect and compatibility. These are the foundations of family life, without which in any way.

Discuss family life

When the proposal is made, it is important to discuss with the partner all the nuances that are associated with cohabitation. In the future, this will help to avoid misunderstandings and major quarrels. It is worth deciding who will perform what duties, how finances will be distributed, how to raise children, what family traditions must be observed, and so on. You can discuss everything to the smallest detail, what comes to mind.

Preparing for family life is not at all a wedding celebration, outfits, a restaurant and a beautiful photo session. You need to learn to get along together, be responsible for others and respect your partner. Only in this case can you get a strong and happy family.

Greetings to all bachelors and sympathizers!

Let's finally look at all the pros and cons of a bachelor life, otherwise you will say, he wrote unfoundedly “The life of a bachelor is fantastic!”, But where are the arguments? Submit your evidence and we'll discuss it there and decide. Fair enough, I agree.

First, about the pros. The main one, of course, is Liberty. You can get home at night, drunk in a smoke, in an embrace with two women, and no one will straighten you with a frying pan. I agree, the example is extreme, let's change it then. When a man wants to buy jeans, what does he do? That's right, he goes to the store and buys. And then he washes.

In the company of his wife, a simple process stretches for several hours: “Let's see that blouse over there? I need to try on these shoes. And these. What, what jeans?! Let's buy it, don't worry! And in general, I want to go to the toilet!”. As a result, you grab some pants that your soul mate liked, but they don’t suit you at all, spending a lot of nerves and no washing. Tin!

Go ahead. It's no secret that even the most beloved girl becomes so familiar with time that sex with her is no longer happy, and constant communication 24 hours a day with the same person is so annoying that you want to run away into the forest and stay there with week. Or for a month. There are no such problems in the life of a bachelor. Every day he communicates with new people and can meet with different girls, either separately or at the same time. Diversity!

On the one hand, it’s good when you are motivated, but if it is expressed in a categorical form: “Yes, you are not a man! You can't earn! What the hell are you wearing? Damn impotent!”, then you immediately want to strangle such a motivator. A normal bachelor says to himself: “Well, my dear, now we’re going to an important meeting, we’ll earn some money, and in the evening we’ll spend it on that beauty we met yesterday.” Tell a man a hundred times that he is a pig, and he will become a pig. And vice versa. The third plus lack of criticism. In another way - no one fucks the brain of a bachelor.

These were the three main pluses of a bachelor life. Now about the cons. The most important, oddly enough, lack of family and all that is connected with it - raising children, jointly overcoming difficulties, constant care for each other. This is treated quite simply. On my example: I got married in my youth, gave birth to a son, got divorced. We still communicate well with my ex-wife, Yurka is already quite old, there is still a continuation of the family, he has already been noted for something in this life.

The second downside is irregular sex. If in marriage this is a constant phenomenon (Joke about Khakamada’s husband: Irina Khakamada - you don’t want to, but you have to!), Then in a bachelor’s life everything depends on the attractiveness of a bachelor and the degree of his laziness. Treatment: if you have money - selling love, if you are handsome - get three girlfriends and take turns in them, but if everything is bad - quietly with yourself with your left hand. Or right, whichever is more convenient for you.

And the third minus of the life of a bachelor - unsettled life. Of course, there are housekeepers, multicookers and dishwashers with vacuum cleaners. But still, it's great when a loving wife and a laid table are waiting for you in the evening. There is someone to discuss various issues with and make a decision after weighing all the options. If the wife is smart, then she will unobtrusively guide you on the true path, not taking out the brain, and the idyll will always reign in the house. There is no cure for this deficiency. A bachelor will not physically have time to do everything, even if he tries very hard. At least me. So I wrote about it and thought - maybe her bachelor life?

What do you think? For or against marriage? Write in the comments.

Sincerely yours, Andrey Pogudin.

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Bachelor life is freedom and bliss for some people, longing and sadness for others. Some dream of finding family comfort and peace as soon as possible, while someone seeks not to tie the knot for as long as possible.

Single life attracts men in most cases. They are able to sincerely enjoy freedom until they feel the desire to find a family. Women, by their nature, are inclined to create a family hearth and comfort, therefore the absence of a family, especially for a long time, is perceived by them as a negative phenomenon.

A rare woman is able to sincerely enjoy loneliness. As a rule, these include those who already had experience in building family relations, and not particularly successful. For this reason, they no longer seek to live together with members of the opposite sex, or try to postpone this moment to a later date.

Pros of single life

The basis of bachelor life is Liberty, in all its manifestations and forms. Bachelors and bachelors very zealously protect her from encroachment by members of the opposite sex. The presence of freedom is the main positive aspect of the bachelor life. The remaining pluses flow smoothly from the concept of "freedom".

The good things about single life

• Spending free time (where, how and when to spend your leisure time)
• Choice of friends (to communicate with anyone, regardless of whether or not the chosen one likes friends and girlfriends)
• Food habits (no one will control how healthy the food you eat or how much money you spend on your favorite foods)
• Appearance and fitness (dress only according to one's own taste; being able to dial excess weight or discard it; do certain cosmetic procedures)
• Finance (spend cash entirely at your own discretion)
• Cleaning (how and when to do it);
• Interior (furnish your home on your own, guided only by your taste, desire and opportunity)
• Variety in sexual life (due to frequent change of sexual partners)
• Lack of critical remarks (no need to adapt to anyone, look for compromises and try to negotiate).

The benefits are pretty impressive. But there is one caveat. The fullness of positive emotions associated with a bachelor life can only be felt at a more or less serious age (for example, from 25 years old for women, from 27-28 years old for men). By the indicated age, men and women can become completely independent financially, and sufficiently prepared in dealing with domestic issues.

Of course, this does not mean that the first salary appears only at the age of 25 for women and 27-28 for men. It's about about the amount of earnings. By the designated age, it is possible to provide a level of personal income that will allow you to enjoy all the pluses of a free life. Also, by this age, most men and women already live separately from their parents and can independently shape their life in accordance with personal preferences.

Cons of single life

Awareness of the negative aspects of a bachelor's life comes at a time when a person is already fed up with personal freedom; when he begins to think about family comfort and well-being.

It is difficult to convince an inveterate bachelor or a bachelor of the need to create a family, that there are positive aspects in living together and in procreation. Such people, as a rule, have already had, more than once, the experience of family relationships and, most likely, have children who are either already old enough or live with ex-husband Or with your ex-wife.

Below are the negative moments of a bachelor life.

• Lack of physical and psychological support. Always and in everything you have to rely only on your own strengths and capabilities. This minus is especially acute when a free person needs help for health reasons. Also, a bachelor must have a sufficiently high degree of self-motivation for effective life and achieve their goals. But people with high self-organization are not so common. Having a family can be a powerful motivator.
• Lack of a complete family. A full-fledged family is a group of persons with family or close ties, and united by common values. In such a family, any of its members can count on support and assistance. It is often believed that full-fledged families must be with children. And it would be more correct to say that in such families the formation and development of children will be more harmonious. A free person does not have the opportunity to build such a union.
• Self-service household. For men, it manifests itself in self-cooking and cleaning the apartment. Women are not afraid of the need to cook and maintain order. They may have difficulties in solving technical issues (electrical, carrying heavy objects, etc.).
• Irregular sexual relations. A free man or woman can rarely complain about the monotony in bed, but the problem of finding a partner is very relevant for them. What can not be said about people who are in a relationship.

Of course, it is difficult to categorically state that family life is good for everyone, and bachelor life is immoral and selfish. A person must act according to his own feelings. First of all, you need to be in harmony with yourself.

You can’t rush to get married or get married, have a child just because it’s supposed to be or the time has come. In such a family there will be no happiness and prosperity. The desire to find a family and end the bachelor life must be sincere and conscious. Only in this case, the life of all family members will be harmonious and comfortable.

Sometimes, married men reminisce about their bachelor life with nostalgia. What has changed after marriage? We conducted a small survey and will tell you what married men lack.

Not so often to attend family dinners

When a man marries, the number of family events with your relatives doubles. This was not the case in his bachelor life. So consider your husband's personal space: if you are going to your parents for Christmas, rent a hotel (if finances allow, of course), and do not stay at your parents' house. This will make your loved one feel at home.

Get more stylish

If your husband dresses tastelessly, then this is not his fault, but most likely yours. Become a stylist for him, starting with a small: “You look so good in light-colored shirts!”, Or point to something in the store, adding that it would look wonderful on your man.

Sometimes buying meaningless things

Did your husband buy a rare baseball signed by a famous player? And what did you say: “Congratulations. I thought we were saving up for a vacation? At least sometimes indulge even the not entirely justified desires of your husband. This is not about constant unreasonable squandering. But if your loved one does not abuse his "hobby", try not to react, because the man will begin to feel inferior and dependent when they begin to scold him.

To have a woman who always listened carefully to you

Men feel needed and in demand when they are listened to attentively and enthusiastically. But in family life, it is difficult for a woman to perceive stories that she has already heard a million times. But in case your husband starts to retell another story in a new circle, do not cut him off with the phrase: “Yes, I already heard that.” What should you take 5 minutes to listen to? Just a couple of questions, and your spouse is happy. If this option does not suit you, then meeting your husband from work, kiss him and ask with interest about the past day.

be clumsy

Sometimes men make a little chaos - scatter their things without feeling the strange look of their wife on themselves. Challenging your husband for scattered things, you are more like an evil parent at this moment than a beloved one. If your husband can’t live in a tidy house, then divide household duties, giving him those that he most often “breaks”: leaves dirty plates - let him wash the dishes, scatter things - let him fold and wash them.

Don't feel constant emotional attacks

Being a bachelor, he solved only his own problems. And now yours have naturally moved onto his shoulders. Before complaining about your colleague and other incidents after work, wait at least half an hour for your spouse to come to his senses after a working day. And then you can already talk about the "painful".

Make small decisions

Men often indulge the desires of women and give them the right to choose in such matters as: what radio station to listen to in the car, what color of the walls to choose, where to go on vacation ... Try to involve your husband in solving such trifles, replacing the wording “Let's do / watch / choose it to “What would you like to do/see/choose”. Try to find a compromise in everything.

Appreciate other women

Men love with their eyes, so it’s quite normal for them to appreciate a passing woman. And if you constantly pay attention to this, the man feels like a guilty little child. He just appreciates the beauty, and not necessarily going to drag this woman into bed. If your spouse does not know how to “evaluate” so that no one notices, but does it openly, then share with him the admiration for a phrase like the following: “Yes, you are right, she is really hot.”

A modern man has the right to choose how to live, how many women to meet, when to marry and whether to have children at all. It seems that family life is full of resentment, disappointment and monotony. That is why many men are already starting to lead a bachelor lifestyle. They continue to meet with women, even sometimes create serious relationships with them. However, often the bachelors themselves do not understand what they doom themselves to. In the men's magazine, the site will talk about what a blessing and a curse is the bachelor life.

We can say that a bachelor is even a kind of pride for the man himself. Now he does not have to obey a woman, listen to her whims, serve her. If a man does not like something in a relationship with a woman, then he can say goodbye to her at any time.

Some men even begin to be bachelors just because they do not want to be bound by the various obligations and demands of women. Some people envy bachelors, others blame them. Some women fall in love with bachelors, while others avoid them like fire. Thus, a single life can be called both a boon and a curse, depending on:

1. How does a man relate to his lifestyle.
2. How happy the man himself is from what image he leads.
3. How the women a man surrounds himself with relate to his lifestyle.
4. How many dear people the man lost while trying to remain "not attached to anyone."

Single life is good

It is not surprising that many men are beginning to think about leading a bachelor life, since they see in it many advantages that they consider to be their benefits:

• A man remains free for all women, despite the fact that he can meet someone.
• A man is not obliged to anyone, even if he suddenly has a permanent partner.
• A man should not share his property with anyone. He leaves all his means and benefits to himself after each break in relations.
• A man should not report to anyone, serve, like, obey.
• A man can be anywhere and meet with anyone, without explaining anything to anyone.
• A man is free to do whatever he wants. Nobody will criticize and reproach him when he is unemployed. No one will limit him in meetings with friends. No one will definitely blame him for sleeping with different women.

A bachelor lives for his own pleasure - and this attracts many men, especially if they have more than once encountered misunderstanding and exactingness from women. Often, men become bachelors after a long serious relationship, even after a marriage that has broken up. Now a man just wants to live for himself, and not constantly hear reproaches and the words “you must”, “you must”, “we don’t care what you want”.

The bachelor life for many men becomes a boon, especially if they have already been in relationships with women. Indeed, many of the fair sex are good only at the stage of the candy-bouquet period. And when everyday life begins, a woman from a beautiful queen turns into a grumpy woman.

Many men have already learned that it is better to keep women away from themselves. It is good to meet with them, to sleep, to take care of them, to have a romantic relationship. However, when serious or marriage begins with all domestic and financial issues, then women turn into "furies" ready to "devour" men with all their giblets. Somewhere love disappears, and women begin to simply sit on the necks of men and constantly demand something.

For someone who has just broken up with a woman, a bachelor life will be for happiness. After all, you can finally live for your own pleasure, not hear criticism from anyone, not make a fuss, live calmly and measuredly. In a bachelor's life, a man lives the way he wants to, spends his hard-earned money on what he wants to buy, spends time as he likes - and at the same time, no one has the right to limit him and demand explanations.

Single life is a curse

But as it turns out, in a bachelor's life, not everything is as smooth as it might seem at first glance. This lifestyle can become a curse, especially if:

1. A man cannot start a serious relationship with his beloved woman, which is why she leaves him.
2. A man has already forgotten how to love it, so he constantly breaks up with wonderful women who are worthy of love and a serious relationship.
3. The man is already tired of loneliness and lack of constancy.
4. The man already wants a family, children.

At first, a bachelor life can please a man. However, several years will pass, and the man will understand that he is already tired of being constantly alone. He meets women, but their relationship is devoid of sincerity, warmth, honesty, love and constancy. He can walk wherever he wants, but at the same time he does not have a beloved woman who is waiting for him at home with the children.

A man sooner or later gets tired of his bachelor life, where he actually always remains alone. He may have many friends and girlfriends, lovers and hobbies, but he does not have the closest person - a wife who will build permanent relationships with him, raise common children and create comfort in their joint home.

Single life can become a curse if a man no longer remembers what it is like to live differently. A bachelor can forever remain a lonely person, because his heart has already become so cold and weaned from sincerity that he will not be able to let in a single woman, no matter how wonderful and beautiful she may be.

The curse is when a bachelor can no longer live differently. The situation is even more aggravated when a man no longer wants to be a bachelor.

Why do people lead a bachelor lifestyle?

For some people, love partners are something like foreign bodies. Usually such people begin to lead a bachelor lifestyle. They are good to be alone. But still, sometimes they try to build a permanent love relationship, create a family, turn into family men. As soon as they begin to live with someone, someone has to pay attention, they immediately begin to feel discomfort.

A loved one is a certain obligation. You now have to think not only about your desires, but also about his. You now have to pay attention not only to yourself, but also to him. You must accept him as yourself. There are times when you have to make concessions, "stand on the throat of your own song." And all this is quite natural if you really want to have a relationship with someone.

But there are people - bachelors and bachelors - for whom such a balance of power is very tiring. They are so accustomed to living only for the sake of their own desires that they do not want to obey other people's desires, no matter how petty they may be. This is the first reason why a loved one becomes a "foreign body."

A single person is used to living the way he himself decided. He already has every little thing in its place. His daily routine is scheduled in a way that suits him. He does only what and only when and what he wants. But then "someone" appears. This "someone" can be a good person, pleasant, desirable. But since he brings his own rules, desires and traditions into the bachelor's life, he seems to become a violator, an enemy, an interfering factor.

This is why people become single: because they are not accustomed to having other people use their time, resources and forces in their lives. When you create a love relationship, in one way or another, you give your partner your existing resources. If you don't make time for him, then you don't have a relationship. If you do everything your way, then your partner is outraged because his opinion is not taken into account.

The unwillingness of a person to make concessions, to share, to allow another to use what he has, and encourages him to become single. “It’s better to be alone than to share with another person what I have ... It’s much more pleasant to spend time the way I want, without asking someone else’s permission and without infringing on myself in anything ...”.

Undoubtedly, the bachelor life has its advantages: you live only for yourself, for your own pleasure, occupy yourself only with what you like. But at the same time you remain alone! But is your freedom from other people's whims, desires and opinions worth your loneliness? This is a question that only you can answer.

Bachelor lifestyle - the inability to build a serious relationship

Often people resort to the bachelor lifestyle only because they do not know how to build a serious relationship. Here we can say that a man becomes a bachelor not of his own free will, but of necessity. He does not know how to build relationships with women so well that they last for many years and remain strong. As far as this is a blessing or a curse for the man himself, it is up to him personally to decide.

A bachelor is a person who simply does not know how to love, open his heart to another person, let a woman into his life and, most importantly, put up with some hardships, compromise, give in and come to terms with some oddities of the opposite sex. In other words, a bachelor is an egoist in the flesh.

A man may want to have a serious and long-term relationship, but he will not be able to do this if he:

1. Keeps looking for someone perfect woman who will suit him in everything.
2. He continues to hang out, walk, have fun and at the same time resist any female attempt to pacify him in her festivities.
3. He is not able to agree on something with a woman so that the desires of both parties are more or less satisfied.
4. Does not want to report, explain, negotiate with a woman, treat her as a partner, and not just a sexual object.
5. Not able to make some concessions, for example, that a woman will throw her clothes around his house or she will demand that he return home immediately after work.

Bachelor life begins when a man does not want to hear the wishes of a woman and give in. Since the relationship is a contact between a woman and a man on an equal footing, where both have the right to vote, both are obliged and can demand, both must be heard, the wishes of both must be taken into account, the bachelor cannot switch to a serious relationship, because he no longer considers any woman equal to itself. He is already used to being the main thing in his life. He is already used to obeying only himself. He no longer tolerates female eccentricities and exactingness. Therefore, he often breaks up with another beautiful woman, considering her to blame for the failure of the relationship.

Outcome

A bachelor's life can be a blessing at one time, and turn into a curse at another. Psychologists do not consider a bachelor life bad, if only a man can really get out of it at any moment when a woman appears in his life with whom he wants to have a serious relationship. However, if a man can no longer stop being a bachelor, then his lifestyle becomes a trap for him.